Stop Asking Kids “How was school today?”

Publication: Leading with Questions – Bob Tiede

Author: Guest Post by Joe Moody

Date: March 26, 2026

The article was first published HERE:

Stop Asking Kids “How was School Today?”

Note from Bob:  You can click HERE to view Joe Moody’s insightful video or you can read the transcript below: 

Maybe it’s time to stop asking kids “How was school today?” — because there are 7 much more powerful questions that flip the script and spark real conversation, not to mention build character in the child. This is according to psychologist and author Amy Morin.

1️⃣ What was the best part of your day?
— You help your child’s brain scan for positives — training them toward gratitude and optimism.

2️⃣ What mistake did you learn from today?
— You help normalize failure and teach them mistakes aren’t shameful — they’re teachers in disguise.

3️⃣ Who were you proud of today?
— Suddenly, your kid starts looking for what’s good in others — growing empathy by the question alone.

4️⃣ What’s one thing you could have made better today?
— Not a complaint. You open space for problem-solving and naming what’s missing without spiraling into negativity.

5️⃣ Who did you help today?
— This one rewires their focus — when you ask it regularly, kindness becomes a reflex.

6️⃣ What was the most interesting thing you learned today?
— Grades aside, you fuel curiosity. When they see your eyes light up, they learn that learning itself is cool.

7️⃣ What’s something new you want to try?
— The courage question. It pushes them toward creativity, bravery, and growth.

No perfection required.
If you see what’s happening here, you shift from interrogating to inviting. You move from report-card talk to soul talk.

And in doing so, you build a bridge not just to your kid’s day, but to their world. We’re reminded that real parenting isn’t about control — it’s about connection

When you start asking these questions, you’re helping your child develop emotional awareness, empathy, and resilience — all while deepening your bond.

The secret isn’t fancy psychology — it’s curiosity. Your curiosity.

So next time you skip “How was school today?” and try one of these… watch your child pause, think, and maybe even smile. ‍

That’s the moment you start raising a kid who’s not just successful, but mentally strong. Wishing you peace, my friend.‍ ‍

Note from Joe:  My post was inspired by the great work of Amy Morin